Stepford Wife

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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

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  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  Finkel thank you for that. My husband told me that they will ask me that question so since you are also confirming this then it is true. My husband was a loving man when. His attitude has changed the more active he became. Anyways thank you for your advice!.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  Sour yes I know I will be careful. I'm just asking what is the best way to go about this. Allow them to meet with me or not. That is all I want to know from everyone who has gone through this.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  James what could they DF me for? They have no evidence. I committed no sins.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  nico I do NOT believe anything anymore! I know all about the lies from Charles Taze to Anthony Morris III at the ARC telling the lead investigator that you would NOT be dis-fellowshipped if you celebrated a birthday! That was the last straw for me. The ARC really sealed the deal that this is NOT God's organization for sure. It was not even a question. I only said that I would tell them that to shut them up. Do you understand?
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  Good let them ask. I will say I believe everything the borg tells me. And I told you that my husband has assured me that he said nothing. I believe him.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  3. 
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  Stepford Wife

  I'm getting the feeling I should not meet with them but I want to know why. Why would I not meet with them, tell them what they want to hear and then be done with it? If I don't meet with them maybe they will not give up on wanting to meet with me.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  Stepford Wife

  But I have nothing to tell them. If they ask me anything I will say I agree with everything the Borg says including the blood issue. My husband has assured me that he has said nothing to them about my doubts.
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  Stepford Wife

  nico why should I not meet with them? It is only a shepherding call! Not a judicial committee. Why do you say this? What is your experience?
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  2. 
  3. 
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  Stepford Wife

  juan ok thank you but what can they do to me if I have not done anything? What is the worst thing about being inactive? My husband and I have moved 3 times in the past 5 years because of this work. Will they notify the other halls about me being inactive?
  
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  Stepford Wife

  Hey ya'll! I have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything. Actually I was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event I was wrong. But now I am convinced that I made the right choice to mentally leave the witnesses. The next step is to physically leave. Gonna be hard since my husband is very active as an elder and everytime I hint about something he asks me if I am reading apostate sites. For example I have been researching about the stance against using blood. I don't think I need to get into details why the JW org has got it all wrong but I secretly tore up my no blood card. When I told my husband that I would take blood he started to cry and tell me that I was one step away from being an apostate and that it would be his duty to report me if I mention this again. Ok so there we are.

  Now, I'm not going down that road. My whole family are witnesses. It is all I know so getting dis-fellowshipped is not an option. So I am going to do the fade. I have not attended a meeting in about 3 months. No service time, nothing. I still have my close friends in the hall and we do things together and they don't seem to mind that I am inactive. My husband comes home the other day and says the brothers want to meet with me and that it is a shepherding call to motivate me to get back in. He said he has tried his best to encourage me and now the elders would like to visit me. And I am a little bit nervous. I never had the brothers talk to me about anything.

  What can they do to me if I have not committed any sins? What will they say? Our daughter told me recently she also does not want to go and I told her we can stay home together. Is being inactive something they can shun me for? My husband said they will remove him as an elder if I do not begin to go to meetings. Is that true?
  

  Anyone have gone through this already? Thanks in advance ~TD